One of the most wonderful things to start off our birth story is our doctor and how he drove 30 minutes North to deliver our baby in another hospital and on his day off (we found out later). We are in awe that a doctor would go out of his way to even do such a thing. I shared with him many weeks ago that I would probably have to transfer to North Valley Hospital as our neighbor would be watching the children. We didn’t want to impose extra time on her though we know she loves kids and wouldn’t mind, we still felt it was best to come closer to home. The doctor told me he’d be happy to do the c-section at the hospital that I felt I needed to switch to. I was so happy because I really like our doctor. What doctor would do such a thing? We are just so grateful. I think of the verse about how the Lord sometimes allows us to find favor with men.
On the day of the delivery when they gave me a spinal it didn’t seem to be taking. As agreed previously, the doctor put me out under a general. I remember asking just before going out, “Matthew won’t be able to be in here with us, huh?” They shared, “Sorry, no.” Upon awaking, I found that they DID let Matthew come in. Listen to this, this is the best part of the story. He was holding my hand while I was out, and he was praying for me and the baby. All of a sudden my limp hand started to squeeze his hand very firmly and stayed on with a nice grip. He couldn’t believe I would squeeze his hand while I was under general anesthesia. You just don’t do that while under, it’s like you’re in a coma. It touched my heart so much when he shared this with me. I know our love for each other and our unity in Christ has brought us so close together that somehow this would happen supernaturally from God.
The baby came out fine and Matthew even got to cut the cord. They took pictures of this that they will send by e-mail from the hospital. The doctor did NOT have to do a hysterectomy. To the contrary, he shared I had a non-bleeding uterus. Unfortunately, I had the largest uterine window he has ever seen in his 30+ years of practice. He had the other doctor look at it with him. A uterine window is where you can see through the scar tissue (from previous c-sections) and it looks like saran wrap, you can literally see the baby through it. He shared that it would have ruptured in 2 more days. A rupture kills the baby in 10 to 15 minutes and I believe kills the mother soon thereafter too. It is rare but it does happen. God was with us. It looks like we are done having babies.
Matthew had to head home to care for the kids after I woke up. We were going to talk that night and they were going to visit the next day. A backhoe tore up some lines (phone, power and internet) that very day and we couldn’t not talk to each other until the next day when I got a hold of our neighbor to watch the kids so he could use their phone. Our neighbor really went out of her way for us as it so happened that her husband went to visit his mother in Western Washington and she passed away. Our neighbor was watching our kids and trying to take care of things on her phone on her end. : (
With my husband and my lack of communications for over 24 hours after the birth of our baby and not being able to talk about it with each other, we were love sick. We have spent nearly 10 years, almost every waking moment together as he is medically retired. When I got to go home the next evening after the birth, I never seen him so broken from missing me. He said his eyes hurt from missing me so much. When I got home he had three deep hearted letters laying around the house for me to find about how much he loves me. It touched my heart so much. Benjamin’s birth story reminds me of our love for one another more than anything. The love a husband and wife should share between each other especially under Christ as we are brother and sister too. Thank you Lord for using little Benjamin to show us how much we mean to each other. Our days go by and we take each other for granted. We take the beautiful things that God gives us for granted too. It’s good to see things from a different perspective sometimes.